The Art of Self Nurturing

December 18, 2023

The Art of Self-Nurturing: A Path to Resilience and Boundaries


​Hey there, lovely souls! Today, we’re exploring the beautiful world of self-nurturing, self-realization, and the incredible power it holds for women. In this journey, we’ll discuss the concept of women giving their all, often to the detriment of their own well-being. But fear not, because we’ll also unravel the wisdom behind understanding that nurturing ourselves is far from selfish. In fact, it’s the key to building resilience and maintaining healthy boundaries that allow us to walk our unique paths in life while supporting those we care about.

The Giving Nature of Women

I love being a woman! We women have an innate, beautiful gift of nurturing. It’s in our DNA to care, support, and love fiercely. Many of us pour our hearts and souls into taking care of others, whether it’s our families, friends, or communities. We find fulfillment in helping and being there for others, and that’s a beautiful thing.

The Unseen Toll of Selflessness

However, there’s a flip side to this endless giving. When we consistently put others’ needs before our own, we risk depleting our own well of energy and happiness. We become like a candle burning at both ends. While we might thrive on caring for others, neglecting ourselves can lead to burnout, stress, and often times resentment. Can I get an “amen”?! This literally is where most of our lives, as women, begins to unravel.

Self-Nurturing: The Unveiling of Resilience

So, what to do? Here’s the thing. It’s not selfish to put yourself first in line. We all know the oxygen mask adage and it is so true! How can you expect to help others if you run our of oxygen? It’s all about self-nurturing, the beacon of light in our journey. Self-nurturing isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. Let me write that again: Self-nurturing isn’t a luxury; it’s a necessity. Think of it as refilling your cup so that you have an abundance of love, energy, and resilience to share with the world.

The Beauty of Self-Care Rituals

Picture this: a quiet morning with a warm cup of herbal tea, a journal in hand, and the rising sun painting the sky with hues of pink and orange. This is your time – a moment to reflect, meditate, and simply be with yourself. Did you feel that? That’s wholeness, peacefulness – that’s nurturing. Even the thought of it nurtures your mind. Self-care rituals such as this are like whispers from your soul, reminding you of your worth and value.

Finding Your Passion

Another aspect of self-nurturing is discovering and pursuing your passions. It’s about reconnecting with your dreams, whether it’s painting, dancing, writing, or any other creative endeavor that brings you joy. By nurturing your passions, you nourish your spirit and feed your resilience. Many times we women view our passions as a luxury to be enjoyed only after we have tended to everyone else. Stop that! You are worthy of your desires and passions. You must first honor your desires before others will also honor your desires.

Embracing Self-Compassion

Resilience is not about being invincible; it’s about being human and allowing yourself to stumble. Self-compassion is the gentle hand you extend to yourself when life gets tough. It’s about acknowledging your vulnerabilities and treating yourself with the same kindness you offer to others. How many of us feel guilty for taking that 15-minute nap or using some money on ourselves to do something enriching or spending time with others who lift us up? It’s rhetorical.

The Art of Setting Boundaries

Now that we’ve delved into self-nurturing, let’s talk about the importance of boundaries. Boundaries are like the fences around your garden, protecting your precious blooms from being trampled on. Boundaries do not need to be unforgiving like a fortress. They can have a give and take like the flexibility of a willow tree. But they do need to exist. No one will respect your boundaries until you respect the purpose and need for having them.

Understanding Your Limits

Recognize that setting boundaries is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of self-respect. And you deserve respect as much as anyone else around you. No one is going to offer you the vibrational aspect of respect until you hold that vibrational aspect within you. Remember like meets like. Know your limits and communicate them kindly but firmly. When you establish boundaries, you’re not closing yourself off; you’re giving yourself the space to flourish.

Empowering Others Through Boundaries

Here’s the secret: when you set healthy boundaries, you’re not only taking care of yourself, but also empowering those around you. By showing them how to respect your boundaries, you’re teaching them valuable lessons in empathy and understanding. You’re teaching them that they, too, have boundaries that should be established and respected. You’re also letting those you love know that you believe in their abilities to manage their own lives, walk their own paths. You see, what we women give to ourselves has a ripple effect that goes way beyond the “doing-ness” for others.

In the grand tapestry of life, the role of women as nurturers is undeniably beautiful. However, we must remember that to be a strong, loving presence for others, we first need to be that for ourselves. Self-nurturing isn’t selfish; it’s the cornerstone of resilience and balanced relationships. By setting boundaries, we protect our inner gardens, ensuring that our nurturing is never suffocating, but always life-giving. Let’s embark on this journey of self-discovery together, nurturing ourselves and others in perfect harmony. Here’s to a life filled with love, resilience, and the wisdom to walk our own unique paths. Cheers to you, magnificent souls!

INTEGRATION: Self Advocate

This is going to be a fun, enlightening and easy integration for you to give a go! Observe and record in your journal the following:

  1. Think of three things you do for someone else that they are capable of doing for themselves.
  2. Think of three things that you desire to do for yourself, but that you don’t feel you have the time for.

We would love for you to come share in the KISS Podcast Facebook group!

*portions of this post were written with the assistance of Jeeves (AI)

The above blog post serves as a foundation for the insightful podcast episode titled
“The Art of Self Nurturing.”
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Weekly Wanderlust Integration: 
This is an accompaniment to the discussion to assist in integrating the concepts herein and can be accessed via the Facebook group>
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In the podcast, the hosts expand upon the ideas and findings presented in the blog post, engaging in a more comprehensive and dynamic discussion. They delve into real-world examples, current events and emerging understanding related to this topic. Through lively conversation and real-world examples, the podcast episode offers listeners a richer understanding of the topic while fostering thought-provoking dialogue among any participants and audience. Together, the blog post, podcast and the integration of the “Weekly Wanderlust” activity create a multimedia experience, that informs, stimulates and utilizes the topic at hand to create a deeper learning and discovery experience.

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